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Thursday, 13 November 2014


Cheating wives The institution of marriage is on the brink of collapse thanks to the tendency of spouses to cheat. A survey conducted by Consumer Insight (CI) in September 2014 indicates in part that at least one out four married women is unhappy; with a majority of them blaming their dejection on the wrong choice of men. In an effort to contextualise the survey, we reached out to a number of women in the city. Most of them indicated they cheat once in a while, either for adventure or to fulfill sexual desires that cannot be satisfied by their men. A top anchor with a leading media house believes that women get married for the wrong reasons, leading to numerous cases of adultery. “A number of us get married because ‘it is time.’ Then, there are those who get married for financial reasons. If you were a flirt, a big spender, do not expect your marriage to change that,” said our source. We found out that whereas married men would cheat because of sexual stimulation, for women, there is always an emotional connection. See also: Is dating your sister's ex-boyfriend really a mortal sin? Achieng, a lawyer with a top city firm has been married for five years and says she has had three extra marital affairs; two with her colleagues and one with an ex. “There is this learned friend who is always there for me and knows how to read my emotions. He sorts me out when I’m faced with difficulties at work. Recently, he helped with a big case I was working on. How else can I reward him?” poses Achieng. The church or place of worship was polled by CI as the least place where a woman would take her ‘mpango wa kando.’ But to the contrary, We have independently established that married women would easily fall for men of cloth. “Pastors present themselves as sweet talking people who fulfil spiritual and emotional needs. He is that man who reminds you of your old dating days and more often than not, will lend you an ear,” Njeri from Nakuru narrated, adding that nothing would stop her from discovering what lies beneath the robes.
The CI survey further indicates that irrespective of their married status, a Kenyan woman is rarely alone, especially at entertainment places. Ninety two per cent of the respondents indicated they would definitely be at a club in the company of a man. “At a glance, I can tell whether I can take him to bed,” explains Cynthia, a mother of two who has been married for the last eight years. Sexually bed Since 56 per cent of the women sampled stated they were sexually active before 18 years, chances of your wife cheating with an ex remains significant, especially if he was good in bed. Married women will rarely cheat on their husbands with a man they don’t know. “It has to be someone she interacts with daily, or she respects, like her boss, your best friend or her pastor,” says psychologist Karen Kimani. She adds that men cheat for sex, plain and simple, while women cheat for love. “Before a woman invites a man to her bed, she loves him, or is set to gain something from the man.” But most women need an emotional connection before graduating to matters of sex. See also: Is dating your sister's ex-boyfriend really a mortal sin? “Severally, I have wanted some good sex akin to what I was used to before marriage, but it is not easy. I have previously been with two different men who do not even come an inch close to my husband. There was a time I got the right game after three different hit and run escapades,” Cynthia added. Married men must be wary of the ex, warns Kimani. “The first love, even after years apart, can never be forgotten. She might say no, but if the ex persists, some women might cave in. It is usually the first love that is the strongest love. That is why the ex could be the man she truly loved, and the man she will cheat on her husband with,” she says

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